I take your point about making us seem desperate. Even one woman who is married to a white man was quoted and made it sound like an act of last resort. I tend to think, while pickings are slim, there are black men out there. Women who don’t date them have simply chosen to date outside of their race; I don’t think they were forced to do so.

However, I was more offended by the notion that we were following our favorite celebs, including SHAR JACKSON. Who did their research? If they didn’t want to go all the way to the top of Hollywood with Halle and her younger, white model, they could’ve at least given a shout out to Kerry Washington’s relationship (even if it ended up not working out). Shar Jackson, though??

“However, I was more offended by the notion that we were following our favorite celebs, including SHAR JACKSON.”

I, too, am offended, but it wasn’t until you so eloquently pointed Shar out that I nearly choked on my jamba juice with laughter. Good one!

Seriously. Who looks at Shar’s fabulous love life and says, “I want that?”

Ah, you ladies kidding? Shar Jackson is like, my model for life, she’s a celebrity, right, doing what she does will make me happy.

But seriously, i read this article last night and was infuriated, I cannot believe it was published in a reputable news source.

This is why I’m angry.

I take offence at the suggestion that black women choose white men because of lack of choice in the black community.

a .This implication is that white men are uniformly second round draft picks, but reliable one’s so what the hey. This to me is a very racist implication.

b. Also the idea that there are fewer good black men out there is a terrible assumption. It feels like another piece of mainstream news that beats up on how black men are no good, which isn’t fair. And that it is allegedly coming from black people and they can’t see how rude it is, is even worse. I can’t think of any other community talking about their men so publicly and essentially hatefully in this manner. Good black men are out there you just need to be in the right place, emotionally and geographically to find them.

c. I know a lot of smart women - black, white, whatever - educated, confident, well put together, solid, independent and they are single. Every woman I’m graduating with on my MA this summer is single. I think the bigger picture we have here, something SATC touched on but never fully explored, is that women are in a stranger position socially than we’ve ever been before.

Once upon a time, many of the things we now take for granted and can do for ourselves are things that men did for us. There was an obvious, woman needs a man, man supports a woman system built into society. So now, it is all about want and we’re adjusting to that and maybe some men feel obsolete when it comes to together women. Notably, most of the men on my MA course at not single and their ladies are pretty much all bimbos.

Sophie Dahl, Sheryl Crow, Kylie Minogue, Uma Thurman, Reese Witherspoon are the names of a few women who are incredibly accomplished career wise but still single. I do not believe it is uniformly a black woman’s affliction.

Rant over, and out.

OR Paul Walker is the hottest man ever. I didn’t tell Boris Kodjoe to go marry that heifer (yes, I am hating) so he’s officially not #1. Paul Walker took over.

I’m not taking cues from Venus or “Something New.” I have eyes. If you look good, you look good.

Oh P.S.:

If Shar Jackson has taught anything, it’s to take caution. She pretty much taught all the black women…no… GIRLS who were looking to run away from scheming n—–s by getting with white men that scheming n—–s come in all colors.

Shar got involved with a wigger, who knocked her up (numerous times), and left her for a white woman. No one black or white should take cues from this chick.

Not sure why everyone is obsessing over Paul Walker, because he is not that hot. He’s also pretty stupid if you ever heard him talk, and that kills EVERYTHING.

I think love and lust is great in any combination. Why limit ourselves to just black and white, when their are so many other flavors in the rainbow.

“b. Also the idea that there are fewer good black men out there is a terrible assumption. It feels like another piece of mainstream news that beats up on how black men are no good, which isn’t fair. And that it is allegedly coming from black people and they can’t see how rude it is, is even worse. I can’t think of any other community talking about their men so publicly and essentially hatefully in this manner. Good black men are out there you just need to be in the right place, emotionally and geographically to find them.”

THE TRUTH.

As a SBM, I’m tired of hearing the “oh, there are no good ones” lines…my friends and I often wonder where these women live that they can’t seem to find anyone worthy of dating. Granted, maybe I’m coming from a limited view as male from NYC, but I know plenty of cats that are on the up and up.

I know several good SBM who are the

Bout time white boys get their props… guess the whole white boys aint packin stereotype is a load of bull. Women are free to be attracted to whoever they want. The stereo type that all white women want black men has been around forever, but its seems like a culture shock when women of color like white boys. THATS racism.

“Bout time white boys get their props”

To me THATS racism. I have no problem with interracial dating, neither do I make asumptions that ALL black women must or do date white men.

By judging men through a limited lens, dating them on the basis of their race is RACIST.

And this article makes the assumption that all white men are great. Like black men always a mess and the only really good men are white.

When men want to be dogs they are dogs and when they want gentlemen they are gentlemen and a big part of the dating/love process is about projection of expectations and how you allow people to treat you.

As a black woman if you don’t want to date Black men, then fine, nobody is going to beat you up for it and nobody has the right to look down on you for doing so but please don’t put Black men down in order to do it.

*sorry that third line, sixth word, should say black*

“Bout time white boys get their props”

“To me THATS racism.”

Lighten up. I think what Gotti was trying to say was (if I may) that for years white women have been given a pass b/c if they dated a black man it was b/c he was packin’ or b/c of the mandingo thing whereas when a black woman has dated a white dude you always get the “what the fuck could he have” question. We all KNOW why a white girl would be with a black guy, but why in the world would you date a white guy is the implication. I have gotten it before.

It’s a double standard if anything, but not racism. I speak from actually having had that shit thrown in my face.

I feel some deja vu coming on here??

Dating outside of your race has been around for a while. Them acting like this is some new shit for black women is so stupid.

THANK YOU.

Who the f— cares? Really, if you can find someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with, grab them up because if you’re picky like me, that is a very rare occurrence.

I’ve never seen Paul Walker act or speak. I don’t watch bad movies so the fantasy has yet to be ruined.

Itis not a last resport, affliction or any other harsh adjectives we can come up with. Dating someone outside of your race is about love and choice. Its really that simple. You cannot spend the rest of your life trying to get others to understand why you are dating or married to someone that is not your same race. Its their problem not yours.

Black women need to date ALL races like other races of women. Black men are not our gods to behold. As well, we should not look to another race of men only after we are tired of some of the black men that hurt us. Men are men so you can experience that pain with any race. We need to open ourselves to real love and not race requirements.

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