First defense of racists everywhere- I have a black ________! (insert friend, wife, co-worker)
What I want to know is what the wife had to saw about this nonsense?

What was in this book? And yes Khia213 your exactly right. I hate when people think that just because someone is married to a black person or has mixed race children that that person cannot be racist, as if there is no way possible.

People have self esteem issues and control complexes and sometimes marrying a person who they might see as inferior simply as a means of having control that person.

The issue here is that he took things that he and his wife probably discuss and broadcast them out to ppl who find it offensive. My fiance and I have all types of frank racial discussions and that doesn’t make him a racist. Now, if he put the same comversations down in a book and gave it to some black ppl who didn’t know the context (or him) then he’d be a racist to the person reading it.

slaveholders slept with their slaves and sometimes professed to love them. does that make them non-racist? what a ridiculous defense.

Morris told investigators he made the booklet to get back at one of his bosses.

Your plan worked splendifirously, Mr. Morris.

Summer - what’s ridiculous is you comparing him being married to a black woman as slaveholders and slaves. Get fucking real.

I meant to say that the slaveholder/salve comparison is stupid.

Just wanted to clarify.

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I think that when SOME people intermarry, they think it gives them license to do some of the more crass things that people of their spouse’s race do. Black people do crap like this all the time (see BET) and people just don’t realize when they’ve crossed a line. My longest relationship was with a Jewish guy and I will be the first to admit that I repeated some shit that is in no way appropriate. I’m not anti-Semitic by any stretch of the imagination. There are plenty of girls who are friends with gay guys who will say things that are perceived as homophobic, probably because gay people use those same terms.

It doesn’t make what he did acceptable. I just wouldn’t put him in the category as a klansman, a noose hanger or a Don Imus.

Wow….I couldn’t even understand what the pamphlet was titled until I read it aloud.

There is NEVER a proper context for racism.

If you can only say certain things to your partner, but not other blacks, then you probably shouldn’t be saying it in the first place.

This dude put a lot of thought into that pamphlet, which gives clear insight into his mentality.

solitaire, I agree but the reality is that people do just that all the time. Friends of black, Asian, Latino, white and gay people do it all the time. It would help immensely if people didn’t tell off-color jokes or say something that can be viewed as negative about their own people. I find this particularly common among my gay friends.

My point re the “context” of something my boy may have said is that it’s not racism, but to some overly-sensitive idiot it could be construed as anything a moron wants it to be. So, you’re right solitaire, there’s never a proper context for racism.

Sorry…don’t mean to be harsh about this, but him being married to a black woman doesn’t preclude him from being an idiot, but I would say that calling him an out and out racist is probably a little off that mark, too. I don’t think the man is a racist b/c I don’t know shit about him other than he did something monumentally stupid. In fact that’s all we know.

[grumpy and turning into Bridezilla more and more each day]

bmd, elope.

If he was just screwing a black woman, it doesn’t mean anything. Strom Thurmond did that. The fact that he’s married to a black woman and has black kids doesn’t make what he did acceptable. Stupid? Yes. Offensive? Very. Offensive to blacks? Yes. Does it make him a racist? Not necessarily.

There’s no such thing as eloping when you’re marrying an Irish/Italian catholic who has 500 family members. This shit is hella stressful.

Damn! The only thing worse than that size wise is Indian. Should have screened out for big families. Too late now. Sorry boo.

I don’t think I can marry someone with a big family. A small little nuclear family would be ideal because my family stretches my patience for BS as it is.

Of course that number is exxagerated, but the wedding is still 225-250 strong at this point. my family is actually larger than his, but my fam is much more flexible with things. Some ppl don’t get invited to the wedding, but they were invited to the engagement parties we had. Others will only come to the reception. His fam though…they must all be at the ceromony. Me no likey. LOL.

I’m trying to get that number down to 200 (maybe 215), but not having much luck.

Ask your fiance to pick his least favorite family members and exclude them. Also, exclude anyone who’ll a scene (those who can’t hold their liquor).